Let’s Build A Wall

What if we built a wall? Make no mistake. I’m do not mean 45’s wall, but before I go there, let me back up. Like all of us, I’m saddened at the passing of Scorchy Barrington (The Sarcastic Boob), who died November 15. Beth Caldwell (Cult of Perfect Motherhood) died November 2. These are just November’s breast cancer […]

Goodbye, Beth Caldwell #forbeth

Most of you reading this are familiar with the incomparable Beth Caldwell, who died on November 2 from metastatic breast cancer. I could go on about her indomitable spirit and fierce advocacy, but most everyone within the breast cancer community is well aware of Beth who has always had our love and esteem. I first […]

When To Stop Fixing Ourselves

You know how irritating it is when others try to help with their quick-fix solutions to our complex medical problems? What a shock when I realized I incessantly try to fix myself. Of course I want to feel well and improve quality of life, but when is it time to stop fixing? When I finished treatment, […]

Blogging Challenge: My Answers to Nancy’s 10 Questions

Nancy from Nancy’s Point put out a summer blogging challenge. I’m up for it! Share anything you want about your cancer diagnosis (or your loved one’s). Share your age, cancer type, stage, when you were diagnosed, family history (if any), your reaction, how you learned the news, or whatever you’re comfortable sharing.  I was diagnosed […]

Unsolicited Advice

You know the annoying unsolicited advice you get when you’re diagnosed with cancer? Here I am, more than six years out from treatment and I still have people email me, this time for their friends. They want to know if I can steer them toward internet links and resources for their friends who just got […]

Saying Goodbye to the Dying

I am in the middle of saying goodbye to someone who has been extended family since I was a small child. She has suffered too long and has chosen to go to hospice care. Without dialysis, she won’t last another week. When you receive the shock that their time has come, you may wonder, How […]

In Memory of Karen Sutherland

It’s been said that one of the hardest parts of growing old is watching your friends die. The same could be said for cancer patients because we lose so many. On June 15, Karen Sutherland died. Many of you know her as “Karen, TC” for that is how she signed her comments on our blogs. […]

Even Paradise Occasionally Sucks

No place is perfect. Not even Kauai. For me, the imperfection of this island is wrapped up in the tiny, biting insects that leave huge, itchy welts. Mosquitoes. Gnats, aka noseeums, because they bite even when you no see ‘um. It’s said that 1 in 5 people are particularly susceptible to insect bites. I am one. It’s […]

Hawaii Move, Part 2: Beyond Survival

Imagine. Getting away from it all. Moving to an island in the middle of the Pacific. Starting over. Some of you may dream of it, but offered the chance to do it, would you? I know it wouldn’t appeal to many, especially those who have family, long-time friends, and solid jobs right where they are, […]

The Laughing Heart by Charles Bukowski #NationalPoetryMonth

In honor of National Poetry Month, I’m sharing one of my favorite poems, The Laughing Heart, by Charles Bukowski. This poem was pinned to my refrigerator to inspire me to stay alert to the time when “the gods will offer you chances.” I knew I needed a change, especially post-cancer when my compromised energy left little […]

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