Hawaii Photos

Nothing like a cold January day to motivate me to finally post my vacation photos. To recap, I spent two weeks in Hawaii in September/October. First, I spent two days in Oahu visiting friends. The rest I spent in Kauai where my son and his wife now live. First, here’s me with my son and daughter-in-law. […]

Last Minute Gift for Sick People

Merry Christmas and Happy Hanukkah to all who celebrate. If you’re going nuts scrambling for that last-minute gift, here’s a suggestion. I just received this Hanukkah gift from my daughter. This seems a perfectly lovely gift for a cancer patient, caregivers, or anyone who’s sick. Even sick of life. As the ad says, “Release your anger by […]

Post-Election Self Care

Feeling stressed out since the election? I know I am. Emotions run high on all sides of the political spectrum. Facebook and other social media feel like venting pots for anger, grief, and blame. Petitions and calls to action fill my inbox. Voicing our concerns and indignation is important, but I’ve had to pull back. […]

Mental Illness: Not a Joke #mhblogday

In honor of Mental Health Blogging Day, I’m going to veer from my usual cancer-related posts and tell you a story that left a deep mark on me. Many years ago, I loved a good and gentle man named David. Beautiful inside and out, he was intelligent, talented and had a good sense of humor. […]

Burn-Out and Vacation

It’s no secret I’ve been burned out, plagued by exhaustion, struggling through work while coping with CFIDS, which I’m certain was triggered by the trauma of cancer and all the other falling apart of life as I’d known it. In other words, the collateral damage. Relief is on its way. I’m going on a long-needed two-week vacation. […]

Does This Illness Make Me Look Broken?

Dear Fixer: Does this illness make me look broken? I only ask because I see you’d like to fix me. I know, I know. You care. And fixing me makes you feel useful and keeps you from fixating on your own brokenness. The thing is, when I see you rush toward me with that multi-tiered toolbox, I […]

Platitudes and Privilege

Life isn’t about waiting for storms to pass. It’s about learning to dance in the rain. Beautiful sentiment, yes? Sure, until you reach your tipping point. Until experience extends beyond the place these sentiments can reach and their wisdom is reduced to empty-caloric, sugar-coated babble. My friend tossed me this platitude recently.* She emailed to ask how I was. My reply included a […]

Words and Images

You know you’re a writer when you get the written results of your mammogram and the first thing you spot is a grammatical error: We are pleased to let you know that the results of your recent breast imaging examination on 6/30/16 shows no sign of breast cancer. Um, don’t you mean “show”? Not to make […]

Triple Negative Breast Cancer

I have a new oncologist and I love him. Almost four years ago, I moved 400 miles from where I had cancer treatment. I haven’t had adequate follow-up since except for routine mammograms prescribed by an internist. For someone with dense breasts, a routine mammogram does not give an adequate picture. With a high deductible came […]

Fatigue, Pain and Quiet

I needed a break from my blog, but I miss writing. I miss continuing the book that is my work-in -progress. I feel so brain dead much of the time. Actually, I hear my coherent thoughts, ideas and inspiration, but mostly don’t have the energy to execute them in a way that’s all that interesting. I decided to write […]

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