Cancer Girls with Big Mouths

“It’s cancer this and cancer that.” My friend spoke of a woman she knows who’s a survivor. “Cancer has become her identity. She’s the cancer girl. It’s been ten years. I feel like telling her: Get over it!” Whenever two women vent, there’s an implicit agreement that we are here to affirm each other. That moment in the conversation […]

Pink: The Dark Side #rethinkpink

Pink!  A pretty color in shades that range from soft pastels to brass-band hotness often associated with females, widely used in marketing aimed at women who enjoy their femininity and men who enjoy hot women. Pink!  That adorable spawn of white and red. White is for whitewash, as in lies, coverup and deception. Red is […]

Childhood Cancer Month: Interview with Amy Goldman Koss

I just learned September is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month. I don’t want to overlook this important month before we suffer through next month’s Pink, although I’d take a year of pink if it meant kids wouldn’t know such suffering before they’re fully grown. To highlight kids with cancer, I asked my friend Amy Goldman Koss if she’d […]

New Year Healing

I’m not a particularly religious person, but I do enjoy services on Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year. This year, as the rabbi went through the service and the congregants followed in prayer books, we heard the same familiar words recited every new year, but when we came to the prayer known as the Shehecheyanu, I had a moment […]

Repost: On Finding out Craig Had Metastatic Cancer

My friend Craig was diagnosed with cancer about the same time as me. Unlike me, his cancer was metastatic, having spread to other parts of his body. Before I moved from L.A., he and I got together along with his little boy. I quickly realized that while we shared some commonalities, his experience varied from […]

Breaking News: Woman Dies of Something Else!

TUSCALOOSA, AL — Virginia Whittlesby, 73, died today from something other than cancer. The cause of death has not yet been determined, but malignancy in any form has been conclusively ruled out. “It’s truly a medical conundrum,” said Lawrence Kahn, M.D. “There’s such a high incidence of patients with malignancies that cancer has become our go-to disease when ordering […]

How Old Do You Feel?

And I will never grow so old again. — Van Morrison, Sweet Thing I’ve been part of a dance community for 20-plus years. Back in the day, we would say: I’m always going to dance, even when I’m old. It keeps you young. There was an implied belief that if you just keep dancing, you will defy the process of aging and […]

Perceptions of Beauty

My latest mammogram report noted the “architectural deformity” in my right breast. I guess it won’t be showcased in Architectural Digest any time soon. Reading one’s own medical records is like peeking into another’s private diary in which he or she gossips about you. It’s strange to read someone else’s words about the most private aspects of […]

Mythical Cancer Warriors

An acquaintance asked, “Do you appreciate life more now that you’ve had cancer?” With a smile I said, “Oh, no! I hate life!” The woman appeared taken aback. She clearly wasn’t expecting my blunt response, especially when my facial expression and exuberance didn’t match the answer. I admit my mischievous side took a certain pleasure in giving a socially unacceptable answer. I […]

15 Random Things About Me

Nancy of Nancy’s Point recently posted a blog challenge to write 15 random things about yourself. Here are mine. Some are quirky. Others are common. All are true. 1. I have one older brother. No, I wasn’t the spoiled baby, but I think my mother over-protected me in ways she didn’t with my brother. We also had a Pekingese named Ricky who clearly […]

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