“When Breath Becomes Air” by Paul Kalanithi

I recently read, “When Breath Becomes Air,” by Paul Kalanithi. This memoir is written by a chief neurosurgeon resident who was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer before he finished his residency. I’m not giving any spoilers, although the reviews and book descriptions don’t hide the fact that the memoir was published posthumously. Some choice gems […]

Survivors and the Holocaust

Yesterday was Holocaust Rembrance Day. I’m reposting from three years ago, but first this excerpt from Elie Wiesel from his book, Open Heart, which he wrote after having heart surgery: Illness may diminish me, but it will not destroy me. I don’t believe Mr. Wiesel referred to his physical body when he said it would not […]

Toxic Relationships

It’s a gift to have a supportive spouse/partner, but illness or other pressures bring out a person’s true colors, for better or for worse.  Toxic relationships can exist in many forms besides romantic unions. It can be a friend, relative, co-worker or boss as we’re well aware these days. Many people who go through cancer […]

2017: Adventures in Reinvention

Here’s the thing about reinvention — it’s a pain in the ass. No, really, it takes a lot of work, focus and exploration. People love throwing around the word “reinvention” as in: After going through months/years of cancer hell and not recognizing the image in the mirror, I’m going to reinvent myself. I’ll make a […]

Let’s Build A Wall

What if we built a wall? Make no mistake. I’m do not mean 45’s wall, but before I go there, let me back up. Like all of us, I’m saddened at the passing of Scorchy Barrington (The Sarcastic Boob), who died November 15. Beth Caldwell (Cult of Perfect Motherhood) died November 2. These are just November’s breast cancer […]

Goodbye, Beth Caldwell #forbeth

Most of you reading this are familiar with the incomparable Beth Caldwell, who died on November 2 from metastatic breast cancer. I could go on about her indomitable spirit and fierce advocacy, but most everyone within the breast cancer community is well aware of Beth who has always had our love and esteem. I first […]

When To Stop Fixing Ourselves

You know how irritating it is when others try to help with their quick-fix solutions to our complex medical problems? What a shock when I realized I incessantly try to fix myself. Of course I want to feel well and improve quality of life, but when is it time to stop fixing? When I finished treatment, […]

Blogging Challenge: My Answers to Nancy’s 10 Questions

Nancy from Nancy’s Point put out a summer blogging challenge. I’m up for it! Share anything you want about your cancer diagnosis (or your loved one’s). Share your age, cancer type, stage, when you were diagnosed, family history (if any), your reaction, how you learned the news, or whatever you’re comfortable sharing.  I was diagnosed […]

Unsolicited Advice

You know the annoying unsolicited advice you get when you’re diagnosed with cancer? Here I am, more than six years out from treatment and I still have people email me, this time for their friends. They want to know if I can steer them toward internet links and resources for their friends who just got […]

Saying Goodbye to the Dying

I am in the middle of saying goodbye to someone who has been extended family since I was a small child. She has suffered too long and has chosen to go to hospice care. Without dialysis, she won’t last another week. When you receive the shock that their time has come, you may wonder, How […]

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