In Memory of Karen Sutherland

It’s been said that one of the hardest parts of growing old is watching your friends die. The same could be said for cancer patients because we lose so many. On June 15, Karen Sutherland died. Many of you know her as “Karen, TC” for that is how she signed her comments on our blogs. […]

Mental Illness: Not a Joke #mhblogday

In honor of Mental Health Blogging Day, I’m going to veer from my usual cancer-related posts and tell you a story that left a deep mark on me. Many years ago, I loved a good and gentle man named David. Beautiful inside and out, he was intelligent, talented and had a good sense of humor. […]

Repost: On Finding out Craig Had Metastatic Cancer

My friend Craig was diagnosed with cancer about the same time as me. Unlike me, his cancer was metastatic, having spread to other parts of his body. Before I moved from L.A., he and I got together along with his little boy. I quickly realized that while we shared some commonalities, his experience varied from […]

15 Random Things About Me

Nancy of Nancy’s Point recently posted a blog challenge to write 15 random things about yourself. Here are mine. Some are quirky. Others are common. All are true. 1. I have one older brother. No, I wasn’t the spoiled baby, but I think my mother over-protected me in ways she didn’t with my brother. We also had a Pekingese named Ricky who clearly […]

Tribute to a Special Dad – Repost from 2013

Another Father’s Day is here. The sun shines. The birds chirp. The smell of barbecue wafts through the air. It’s a great day to celebrate fatherhood, to honor all those good men who have invested their love and energy into raising children, even those who did not contribute biologically but have loved and raised others […]

Illness and Denial

Even as your body betrays you, your mind denies it. –Sara Gruen, Water for Elephants Religion is the sigh of the oppressed creature, the heart of a heartless world, and the soul of soulless conditions. It is the opium of the people.  –Karl Marx I have a friend who I’ll refer to as “R.” He […]

Lesley Gore and Me

Lesley Gore died last Monday from lung cancer. No doubt, she made a big mark in music history. To this day, You Don’t Own Me is sung as an self-empowering anthem. But the song that evokes rich memories for me is It’s My Party. I was born in October of 1956. I grew up during the Vietnam War, Civil Rights […]

Memorial for Maxwell

You may have read my post about my friend Maxwell, who died from cancer last November. On Saturday, I went to a memorial for him attended by roughly 30 of his friends. A friend of mine accompanied me, but otherwise, I didn’t know the others in the room, nor did most of them know each other. We were brought […]

When Friends Die

Cancer brought Maxwell and I together. It also tore us apart. Maxwell died today. Peacefully, I’m told. He is now free, and freedom meant everything to Maxwell. He was as free a spirit as I’d ever met. Certainly unconventional in many respects.  The Rolling Stones song, Ruby Tuesday, makes me think of him, especially the lines (with a […]

Melissa Etheridge AARP Interview

AARP Magazine’s interview of Sheryl Crow and Melissa Etheridge kicked up quite a stir, especially concerning Melissa Etheridge. Lots of reaction, passion and vitriol. While I’m in agreement with some of it, I forewarn you that mine may be the unpopular stance. I’ll begin with what bothered me to get it out of the way. Let’s start with AARP’s […]

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