Platitudes and Privilege

Life isn’t about waiting for storms to pass. It’s about learning to dance in the rain. Beautiful sentiment, yes? Sure, until you reach your tipping point. Until experience extends beyond the place these sentiments can reach and their wisdom is reduced to empty-caloric, sugar-coated babble. My friend tossed me this platitude recently.* She emailed to ask how I was. My reply included a […]

Healthcare and the Elections

For the last few months, I haven’t felt well. I’ve been extremely fatigued. Just abnormally exhausted. Long story short, my thyroid medication was increased and that definitely helped, but it’s not the whole answer. I’ve been fatigued to varying degrees since cancer, but now I’m going backward. I haven’t been to an oncologist in more than […]

Attitude About Platitudes

Since then, at an uncertain hour, That agony returns: And till my ghastly tale is told, This heart within me burns.       –Samuel Taylor Coleridge, The Rime of the Ancient Mariner These last few weeks, I’ve noticed an onslaught of judgment on social media where cancer patients, including those who are metastatic, have been slammed for being […]

Komen and the Metastatic Community

Komen is nothing more than a glorified event planner, hosting races and events, raising lots of money. Good times! Despite its slogan, “For the cure,” very little of that money is allocated toward research. Beth Caldwell, who writes the Cult of Perfect Motherhood blog, just came back from the San Antonio Breast Cancer Symposium where she met with a representative from Komen […]

De-Pinked and Beige Like a Head in Sand

Feeling pink fatigue? I don’t know about you, but I’m happy with my head in the sand, at least through October. I wrote a few pink posts last year, and reposted one this year. The links are at the bottom of this post. The only thing I can add in 2015 is I see Komen listening to some […]

Open Letter to Be Bold Be Bald Campaign

October 16 was Be Bold Be Bald for 2015, an annual event to raise money to support cancer patients by asking people to buy and wear flesh-colored caps for a day and mimic baldness in honor of cancer patients. I’m a day late because I tried to block it out, but each year it bothers me to no end. […]

Pink: The Dark Side #rethinkpink

Pink!  A pretty color in shades that range from soft pastels to brass-band hotness often associated with females, widely used in marketing aimed at women who enjoy their femininity and men who enjoy hot women. Pink!  That adorable spawn of white and red. White is for whitewash, as in lies, coverup and deception. Red is […]

Mythical Cancer Warriors

An acquaintance asked, “Do you appreciate life more now that you’ve had cancer?” With a smile I said, “Oh, no! I hate life!” The woman appeared taken aback. She clearly wasn’t expecting my blunt response, especially when my facial expression and exuberance didn’t match the answer. I admit my mischievous side took a certain pleasure in giving a socially unacceptable answer. I […]

Of Life and Battles

I’m deeply saddened to learn that Lisa Bonchek Adams passed away last night. Anyone who has read her blog knows of her beautiful prose, the love for her husband and children, and the honest no-sugar-coated way she chronicled the disease to which she ultimately succumbed. A lot of people in the cancer community detest the word “battle” when used […]

Melissa Etheridge AARP Interview

AARP Magazine’s interview of Sheryl Crow and Melissa Etheridge kicked up quite a stir, especially concerning Melissa Etheridge. Lots of reaction, passion and vitriol. While I’m in agreement with some of it, I forewarn you that mine may be the unpopular stance. I’ll begin with what bothered me to get it out of the way. Let’s start with AARP’s […]

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